A: In order to keep things enjoyable for those who attend our parties, we do have some guidelines that we expect all of our members, as consenting adults, to abide by:

The Golden Rule: “NO Means NO.” Anyone (yourself included) may say “NO” at any time for any reason, without further explanation. Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody. Saying “No” should be done with a simple “No, thank you.” Never give an explanation because that is what usually causes problems and hurt feelings. Don't forget that people's attitudes can change with time and the situation. Who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different outcome

Be Courteous. Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated – with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. 

Be Friendly. Whether or not you are personally interested in being with someone be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and wish to share time. After all, this is a party!!! Besides, you don't want to be rude or judgmental because you wouldn't want it to happen to you.

Relax and Get Acquainted. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere camaraderie.

Respect Others Feelings. Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping him or her over the rough spots. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; and alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.

Don't Be Pushy. If you are interested in “partying” with someone let him or her know in an inviting way. If they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say “No, thank you,” do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say “NO” at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.

Couples: Deal with Jealousy Head-On! It’s a normal, human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Take time to stroke your partner’s ego. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Always leave together. Your relationship together is not worth risking for the Lifestyle.

Attending as a Single. If you are a man or woman attending the party solo, it is important to be sensitive to and respectful of the relationship that a couple has with each other. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose never impose! “No still means No.”

Respond to All Invitations. RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a party, a group or another couple, is people who are discourteous enough to not respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette and good social courtesy DEMANDS you respond, by either calling or writing to say YES or NO.

Go Prepared. Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you have previously been invited to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.

Cleanliness. Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or bad breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination. It is amazing what driving somewhere, stopping for a bite, or whatever, did do or rather UNDO.

Practice Safer Sex. It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, AIDS, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean. Simply someone wishes to be responsible and provide you both with protection.

Alcohol and Drugs. Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you “relax.” Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle. Absolutely NO ILLEGAL DRUGS are permitted at our parties. If you are found to be using any type of illegal substance at the parties, you will be asked to leave and your membership to the club will be revoked!

Enjoy Yourself. Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter, and a positive attitude.